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of a working mother who is trying hard not to
let her whole existence be determined by her
cute little munchkins, yet continues to be drawn
in by the adorable and sometimes annoying tiny people!

Monday, January 21, 2013

What is the Point?

In the weeks following the Sandy Hook Tragedy, I slept very little. Every time I closed my eyes I saw a classroom full of terrified children, and of course, because it was a dream (thank the Lord) one of those children was always one of my girls. It was awful. I cannot even imagine what those parents are going through.

Soon the dream transformed. No longer were there children involved. It was just me. Me racing to my classroom door to try to lock it in time and failing. Failing over and over again every night. In every single dream, I made it to the door at the same time he did and could not stop him from coming in.

Thankfully, I can wake up from this nightmare every night. There are 26 families who can not. Not to count the tens of thousands of families across America who are mourning the loss of loved ones due to gun violence.

Let me clear....I HATE POLITICS. I never get involved in debates. I don't talk about who I am or did vote for. It is not that I don't have beliefs or take a stand on issues. It is just that I refuse to get into a debate on Facebook or anywhere else that leads me in to an argument with people. Look here! I gots (intentional) three girls. I gots enough drama in my life!

However, I will take a stand on this (and is not about how to make our schools safer. I am saving that for another post). It is this: There needs to be a ban on all semi and automatic weapons. Before you say, well she just doesn't like guns, let me be clear. My father has a huge gun collection. I have shot every kind of gun there is. He made sure that I knew how to shoot a gun. I have shot hand guns, rifles, semi automatic weapons, and have even shot a machine gun before.

I support the right of every American to bear arms. Load up on shot guns and rifles and pistols. But seriously when do you ever need to shoot more than 6 bullets at a time? Even if someone broke into your house, you would only need a few bullets to put a stop to the perpetrator.

Now I know what you are going to say, "Guns don't kill people. People do." You are dead right! There need to be stricter and more effective laws about mental illness. There needs to be more help for people with mental issues. I agree with all of that. But I also think there is no need, except in the military, for assault weapons.

Yes, I know that drunk driving kills more people than assault weapons, but HELLO? didn't we make it illegal to drink and drive in order to prevent it. I know you are going to say, "well they will just get them somewhere", so does that mean we just lay them up there on a silver platter and say "Come and get your assault gun!"

Why wouldn't you want to make it harder for criminals to obtain them? Making something illegal does not stop someone from breaking the law, but it does let them know that it is wrong and there will be consequences. I mean, teenagers are going to have sex if they want to, does that mean that you don't do everything in your power to tell your teenager that it is wrong and that if they are going to choose to do it, they should protect themselves?

That argument of "they will get them somehow" is stupid. People are always going to speed...does that mean that we just do away with speed limits?? No. It means we do a better job of enforcing the speed limits because if we don't someone will die.

Criminals will always try to get their hands on the best weapon that can aid them in commiting their crime in the fastest most efficent manner, but just imagine what would have happen if at Sandy Hook, Adam Lorenzo's mother only had a pistol, shotgun, or rifle. How many times would he have had to stop and reload? How many chances would children have had to escape or heros have had to over take him? How many innocent lives would still be living today?

I am not saying to ban guns. Guns make me feel safe! I am asking, what is the point in an automatic or semi-automatic weapon if it is not to kill quickly and effectively?

Tuesday, January 1, 2013

Spectacular Spinach Casserole

My family does not like greens! Not green food, but turnip or collard greens. So I was trying to find something green to make for our New Year's Day lunch that could substitute for the greens. I mean we need all the money we can get! I toyed with creating an almost "dip" but finally came up with this which is absolutely delicious and nutritious!!!!

Spectacular Spinach Casserole

2 (10 oz.) packages of chopped frozen spinach, thawed and drained
1 block of cream cheese, softened
1 can of cream of mushroom soup
1/2 cup of mayonaise
1/2 cup shredded parmesean cheese
1 (6oz) can of fried onions, divided

Preheat oven to 350. Thaw and drain the spinach. Combine all ingredients (only 1/2 of fried onions) in a large bowl. Top with remaining fried onions. Bake for 20-25 minutes until bubbly.

I am So Glad We are Rushed

A few weeks ago, my husband and I got into one of those silent, but so mad, but not talking about it, but so frustrating, but can't let the other one know you are so mad that you could scream and tear all of your hair out...discussions.

I had noticed that he was constantly in a bad mood on Sunday. He wasn't grumpy or yelling or mean. He was just not very happy and stayed quiet most of the day. When I asked him what was wrong, he pulled "the girl card" and said "nothing". I swear he uses that card more than I do. Maybe it is because I am so unbelievably tired and stressed that I don't have time for games and if I am mad about something, by goodness you are going to know it!

Anyway, I finally got it out of him and then quickly wished I had not. He said that he was in a bad mood every Sunday, because he did not like going to Sunday School (pause before you think badly of him and wait for the rest of it). Then he left and went to a football meeting. And needless to say I fumed and obsessed over his statement all day long.

 When he got back and after we put the kids to bed, I asked him Why? I mean in my head I was thinking that if he didn't want to go to church then that was it...it was a deal breaker....and why had it taken almost 12 years of marriage for my to see this side of him?
Alas, my crazy, obsessive, "snake's in the head" mind had made it totally into something that it wasn't. The truth was...he didn't like going to Sunday School not because he didn't like Sunday School and by extension (in my crazy head) God, but because of how rushed we were. It stressed him out, made him feel out of control. We got up at 7:30 ate breakfast, got three kids and ourselves ready, made it to Sunday School usually late, went to church and battle kids to sit still and behave, gathered everyone up to get in the car, went to Wal-Mart (only day there is time), rushed home to prepare and eat lunch, clean up and started the endless laundrey, and then he left at 1:30 for his weekly football coaches meeting. 

Okay....I can see where he is coming from. Just typing that made me tired and feel like my chest was closing in on me. I completely empathized with him. I totally get it! I do....But then I stopped and thought about why we are so rushed.

We are rushed because we have been blessed with 3 beautiful daughters.
We are rushed because those 3 beautiful children are completely healthy and active.
We are rushed because those 3 beautiful children are 3 beautiful dancers who are good enough to be on the competition team.
We are rushed because we have good jobs.
We are rushed because we have good jobs that pay good money that allow us the ability to take weekly trips to Wal-Mart to fill our pantry.
We are rushed because we are lucky enough to live in the great country of the United States of America where we are free to worship our Great God.

Yes we are rushed, but I am So Glad We are Rushed. We are truly blessed beyond measure!